It's that time again - a holiday. Next week is our country's annual celebration of independence, freedom and liberty from the rule of England. Yet in seasons of depression, anxiety, grief, trauma, addiction and/or other difficulty, we don't feel free from oppression or at liberty to pursue happiness. Then these markers - holidays, anniversaries, etc. - come along with a distinct reminder of how we "should", "suppose", or "use" to feel. The weight of our emotions and circumstances feels even heavier, our shame grows and we sink deeper into the internal darkness.
What if you could have your own revolution from oppression, and declare independence from the "shoulds", "suppose to's" and "use to's"? The fact is you don't feel celebratory. Liberation is not your emotional reality at this time. And that's okay!
This season, may you start taking action towards independence from unrealistic expectations, freedom from faking, and liberty to be honest with yourself & authentic with others.
For support in taking action to declare your personal Independence Day, call SummerTree Therapy!
A time of joyful gratitude and fellowship for some,
a time of bereavement and avoidance for others.
A few years ago I decided to make an adjustment to my Mother's/Father's Day approach. Having lost my paternal grandmother, my mother to cancer and estranged from my maternal grandmother many years ago, I decide to broaden the focus. I now choose to celebrate Matriarch's and Patriarch's Day. Rather than avoid these holidays, I now use these weekends to include honor to my aunt, uncle, and substitute grandmother.
Whatever your day entails, let it be memorable with the beginning of a new tradition, a new approach to remembrance & grief, and something to savor in the future. We don't have to MAKE it perfect. How can you allow a new perspective to honor love, gratitude, and healing for the direct and indirect Fathers or Patriarchs in your life?
For encouragement, support and connection, the Denton area now has a monthly MeetUp Group for women who did not have their mother or a mothering figure to guide and nurture them throughout their developmental years. This may be due to death, separation or neglect, we are a sisterhood of shared experience.
Join us the 2nd Saturday of each month from 11:30am to 1:30pm. July 8th to be announced soon!
Please RSVP via https://www.meetup.com/Denton-Motherless-Daughters-Meetup